Identity Crisis –
The lost self-worth

We are thinking of the meaning in life mostly in times of personal depression – when we question everything. Then we are feeling a need for orientation and order - the search for meaning as a corrective against chaos and fear.
How is meaning developed? Our life appears meaningful when we set aims ourselves and move from one aim to another.
In doing so, a meaning should not be an aim, but constitute a valuable relationship between the ‘I’ and the aim, which helps us to overcome problematic and critical periods of time. Aims and the connected meaning to the ‘I’ give us a long-term perspective.

One element of a healthy condition of the soul is also to feel a minimum of control over your own conditions of life. This strengthens the self-confidence and self-control as opposed to the control of others. The loss of self-control in the interaction with others is the first step towards depression, resignation, identity crisis and loss of meaning.

But we feel our life most meaningful when we give ourselves a meaning and value. If we feel encouraged instead of required in the family or job we see ourselves as a valuable part of the family and gain self-confidence in regard to the group.
The problem with this is that self-confidence is an especially fragile measurement which is easy to disrupt and to manipulate. If values of family or group collide with self-realization, then self-worth and intrinsic value get lost frequently. The effects are physical and mental problems, like depression, overweight, infection, high blood pressure, migraine, fear of existence and many more.

To gain back the meaning in life is nothing more than to gain back the imagination of one in the social surrounding. An imagination of independent activity combined with an independent identity facilitates a feeling of richness and movement – one feels inspirited!

Our imaginations of life give us and our body a soul. The world will be seen as meaningful and creative when we mirror our imaginations of us in our social surrounding. Then we can be again the person we were before the identity crisis.

We cannot just accept already existent views about the meaning of life. Everyone needs to find the meaning of life for himself. We do this by interpreting and thinking our own life – in dialogue with the other!
We are not like rotating mechanical watches, but a mutual process of creation, which react back on its causes and therefore heals itself at every point in one’s life. Meaning is first of all context, which has to be placed inside in order to release it by ourselves. To find the meaning in life is therefore nothing else than to think oneself into context. To give meaning to your own life means to create context for our own lives instead of letting other people create.

Many times we speak about meaning where instead we mean happiness. Like happiness, we cannot target meaning directly. A direct intention for happiness is deemed to failure. For the one who wants to have happiness directly, does not want to do anything for it. The same is true of meaning. Happiness and meaning are always to achieve on the way through job, family, art, responsibilities.